There are endless myths and doubts as far as having sex during pregnancy is concerned. In the absence of authentic information, it's easy to completely withdraw from sex when one is pregnant. A common concern is whether sex during pregnancy can harm the unborn child or whether sex during pregnancy increases the woman's chances of a miscarriage. But what about the couple’s physical needs? We thought about all these questions and asked our experts. The verdict? It is okay to have sex during pregnancy, but with caution. Here are expert inputs from a gynaecologist and a sexologist who tell us what we should keep in mind while having sex during pregnancy. 

Dr. Asha Sharma, HOD Obst & Gynecology at Rockland Hospital, New Delhi says: Even though a woman can have sex during her pregnancy, make sure there is no history of any bleeding during the pregnancy or miscarriage. If the woman is tired she should not opt for sex. If there is any vaginal discharge, then also intercourse should be avoided.  After sex vaginal toilet should be done. (i.e. cleaning of the vaginal tract). Sex toys and lubricators should not be used at all. They can cause harmful effects. However simple lubricants can be used. But lubricants containing scents should not be used as chemicals in those scents can cause harm to the baby.

Dr Rahul Gupta of Ashok Clinic, New Delhi says: Best is to keep away from sex during the first trimester, else it is okay to go for it. This is because mothers-to-be are at a high risk of infections and miscarriages during these stages specifically. Also, as the time passes the belly grows and making love can be a tiresome job rather than a pleasant one. But having sex does not affect the fetus of the mother in any way. However, this doesn’t mean you can go an overdrive!  Best is to exercise caution. Also, a couple needs to talk freely regarding their sexual relationship. Always make sure that the woman-on-top position is best suited while making love as it helps in not putting pressure on the tummy directly. 

Say no to rough lovemaking. When a mother is pregnant, the tummy of a pregnant lady is safely covered by the amniotic sac which keeps the baby safe. However, indulging in rough lovemaking can affect the fetus in many ways. Whenever you have the urge of making love, start by simply kissing, hugging and then go for the real deal. But again always take it slow and make it a pleasurable experience for each other!

You should NOT have sex during pregnancy if:

• You have had a miscarriage earlier. It is better to be safe than sorry. Also, consult your gyne in case you must!
• You have chances of pretern labour.
• You have multiple pregnancies.
• You have frequent vaginal spotting or bleeding. Again, best is to consult your gyne.

Men, be supportive! Taking care of your better half when she is pregnant with your child, goes without saying. But it is also imperative for you to understand her needs and wants and keep up with her mood swings. Talk about your sexual relationship openly and go for positions which are comfortable for your lady.

*Image courtesy: © Thinkstock photos/ Getty Images